My friend didn't really listen to my thesis topic really well initially, she just directly swam into the concepts first. After understanding these concepts, she would definitely ask me the topic of my thesis. Nevertheless, here is my thesis topic to give you the context about what we are talking about. It goes: to study correlation between perceived stress and coping mechanisms among 12th standard students.

She: Wait , what?!!! So you are saying that the how stress I feel is in my hand? Is this what perceived stress means?
I: According to the Encyclopedia of behavioral medicine, perceived stress is the feelings or thoughts that an individual has about how much stress they are under at a given point in time or over a given time period.

For example: When I used to work as a science scriptwriter, I was supposed to send my script to the experts of that field, to check the facts and things like that. I used to get stressed a lot. I used to end up procrastinating my task because of that. I used to feel so stressed, I used to feel heavy in my chest. But when I used to see my co-workers, just saying that okay, I will write this script, send it to the expert, and take another script. They used to say it with so much ease. I used to wonder why they weren't worried about the review. When I asked, they used to think, what can happen? It is a part of our work, sending to the expert is anyway a good thing that they tell if we are missing out on anything. Listening to their perspective used to make me calm. So in this case, I perceived the same situation with more stress than my co-workers.
She: Yeah. I have also noticed such incidents around me. Especially at home. Yesterday only, we came to know that some relatives are gonna come and here my ajji is tense. She started asking questions like how are we gonna manage, when we gonna clean the house and blah blah blah but my mother was relatively calm. She was saying that, how much we can do, we will do. Every home has something not neat. What’s the big deal in it? But what is stress?
I: Yeah.According to Lazarus and Folkman, stress is a particular relationship between the person and the environment that is appraised by the person as taxing or exceeding his or her resources and endangering his or her well-being.
She: Wait, wait, wait. Before you go ahead. The examples we discussed earlier, did you notice that there was a difference between what each person was saying and so I think, each person has different thoughts. And that’s why they experienced different stress.
I: Exactly! You became so smart! You just told me what I was gonna tell you. That’s the most interesting part that I thought. But you broke the egg before I.
So basically, how much we get stressed depends on how we evaluate the situation. And if you notice it, this happens between the situation and our response. And, there are two categories of evaluations that happen between the situation and your emotional response. She: OMG! Seriously? Wait, you mean we actually evaluate stress without even realizing it? Like, we’re secretly deciding how stressed we should be?
I: Yes. Actually, Folkman, Lazarus call this process cognitive appraisal and the types are primary and secondary appraisal. So if you notice, wherever the situation arises, you first assess the relevance of events to well-being, distinguishing between harm, threat, challenge, and benefit.
She: this is becoming too much. Can you break it down?
I: Yes, my lord! Let me tell you my experience.